Adventures in cookies

Friday, April 25, 2008

The Donne concert this evening!!! I'm excited, even though I woke up with a stuffy nose. Boyfriend has a cold, and despite my best efforts not to get it (these were made up of me screeching "Get your germs away from me!!!" every time he came withing a few feet of me), I have. Shit. I hope it's just a stuffy nose. If it gets any worse I'm screwed. Plus I hate singing with decongestants and all that in my system......grrr....

Yesterday afternoon, Mom and I baked. We made a batch of koulourakia, which is one of my favorite cookies. Orthodox Easter is Sunday, and the annual barbecue extravaganza is at her house this year. We wanted to make my Nouna's (godmother's) recipe, but we only have the rough proportions, since she took the exact ones to her grave in July (Eonia i mnimi aftis). We had to call one of her friends, another epicly old Greek lady, to find out the right ingredients.

Koulourakia are simple butter cookies with just a hint of orange or lemon zest. Some people claim that they should have sesame seeds on them, but I think that's heresy. Anyway, they're supposed to be perfect little twists, like this:

Mine, however, did not. Some were just misshapen little lumps, some looked like preschool attempts at play-dough. One, looked like this:
Heh. Heh heh......what does this look like to y'all??

Off to get ready for the gig, and contemplate whether to go to the gym....

Shameless Self Promotion and Other Joys

Saturday, April 19, 2008

This coming weekend, the 25th, is my early music ensemble's concert. Donne di Mezzi will perform at 7:30 at the ProArts Gallery in Oakland (550 Second Street, Oakland). Click here for tickets and info!
I'm getting really excited. Especially after the gig I sang last night, when my only thoughts were "God this is miserable" and "when is it over." No, Donne di Mezzi will rock. We're discovering cool things about the music each time we run through it, as well as neat interpretive stuff. I'm also pretty psyched that the venue (an art gallery not known for staid, classical kinds of presentations) means that we can eschew all concert etiquette! Well, probably not all, but it gives us a certain freedom that we wouldn't necessarily have otherwise. We're thinking of giving an oral description of the pieces, rather than writing academic sounding program notes, for instance, or reading the translation to the audience before singing....

On the "strange things that happen on earth" category, France is considering legislation that would make it illegal to glamorize incredibly thin women. I think this is targeted at the fashion industry, in the wake of the death of a model due to anorexia-related illness. It's also related, I think, to Spain's desire not to let ridiculously skinny models take part in fashion shows.

Here's the thing. France seems to be populated entirely by skinny women! Seriously, I don't know how they do it, but the reason that you hear Europeans going on about how fat Americans are is that Europeans are significantly thinner than we. Celeste and I have both had the misfortune of trying to buy pants in France, only to find that France doesn't make trousers that fit our American asses. The sick thing is that we're both firmly within the definition of "slim."

Anyway, back to the point. I applaud the bill's author for trying to take on the industry that makes women feel inadequate. I don't know how they'll enforce it, though.

It will be illegal to "provoke a person to seek excessive weight loss by encouraging prolonged nutritional deprivation that would have the effect of exposing them to risk of death or directly compromise health."

How are they going to differentiate between that and a magazine that claims to "just depict people who are naturally very thin." Wouldn't that be the immediate response if you get hauled into court? Apparently, though, they're also targeting "pro-anorexia" websites. Again, I applaud the effort, but it's going to be even harder to prosecute people with blogs or websites.....Sigh....
Standards of beauty are weird things....My theory is that what's considered most glamorous or beautiful is what is least attainable. In the 17-19th Centuries, when the majority of people were working in fields and were pretty fucking starving, the Western European goal was to be round and curvy (only possible if you're well fed and not doing back-breaking labor all day every day) with super pale skin (only possible if you're not outside doing back-breaking labor all day every day). Now that we're mostly pretty sedentary, driving to work, working in offices or otherwise less physically than agriculture allows, the goal is to be tanned (not possible if you work inside every day) and super thin (only possible if you have the means to work out like a motherfucker for hours a day, or have the mental energy to constantly deprive yourself of nourishment....Which seems like it would preclude using your brain in any other way).

holy crap that was a run-on sentence......

But yeah, society conditions us to want what we can't have. That's something that legislation will have a hard time fixing....

Oh, by the way, here's the article:

housework, gender, being a "wife"

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Don't go inferring anything about me from that title. I hate housework (do it only to keep the allergies at bay), think gender is mostly a construct, and think that the "w" word is one of the worst 4-letter words there is.

Now, on to the important discussion. Who does housework in America? Well, you would hope that it would me most of the adult population, right? Well, it seems that, even in our enlightened age where everything is golden and wonderful and there's no sexism or classism or racism.....oh wait, sorry, I was talking about Mars.....Let me get back to earth:
In 2008, when we've been mouthing off about gender equality and feminism for some time now, wives still do most of the housework. Not only is it the wives keeping house, but husbands manage to generate housework that the women wouldn't have to do if they were living alone. Some 7 hours of extra work a week. That's a whole work day, right there! And (!) that number is down significantly from where it was in the '70s. Apparently the hours grow exponentially when there are kids. Of course. Wives do 2.8 times more work than husbands, in general, when there are kids. The industrial cleaning crew required to keep smeared applesauce and finger paint at bay apparently has one name only: Mom.

What's interesting is that of all of the categories of men surveyed, the ones doing the most housework were the single ones. This means that the creatures are completely capable of cleaning and tidying. It must. They get married, though, and poof, suddenly, they're doing next to nothing and the wives do a whole extra work day's worth of housekeeping.

Why is that? I'd really like to keep my scepticism at bay and say that there's some reason other than most men thinking that acquiring a wife means acquiring a servant. Really, I would. Somehow, that nagging feeling just keeps coming back.....

The article that I read was from Yahoo. Here it is. Surprisingly enough, a couple of days later, another Yahoo article tackled the issue of gender roles and how they relate to happy (or not) marriages. I'm surprised because the idea of gender constructs doesn't usually make it to mainstream media. The article suggested that tension in relationships (especially when it comes to things like housework) can come up when one partner's idea of roles and expectations clashes with the other's. It brings up the idea that a man brought up with clear ideas of "women's work" might have trouble contributing equally to housework, cooking, whatever. It also has the balls to bring up the theory that "actions speak louder than words." That is, even if mommy and daddy told you that boys and girls can do the same things, if daddy sits on his ass in front of the TV on a Saturday, and mommy cleans and cooks and arranges the babysitter for the evening, the clear, loud image will be that men work during the week, then relax at home, and women clean and cook and don't have outside interests.

The article is not perfect, by any means. It doesn't do much to criticize the gender roles. It brings them up, though, which is definitely a start.

In 1971 Judy Syfer wrote an essay entitled "Why I want a Wife." It was published in Ms. magazine. It features wonderful nuggets like:

My wife must arrange to lose time at work and not lose the job. It may mean a small cut in my wife's income from time to time, but I guess I can tolerate that. Needless to say, my wife will arrange and pay for the care of the children while my wife is working.

It appears that the traditional role of Wife was akin to butler, majordomo, footman, valet, chamber maid, scullery maid, kitchen maid, cook, housekeeper, nanny, laundress, gardener, masseuse, counselor, coat-rack, entertainment......Seriously! Even imperialist British aristocracy figured out that each of those jobs needs it's own person! With that job description, it's hardly any wonder that it took western society so long to discover feminism. Those who would most benefit had to put revolution somewhere between scrubbing the floor, entertaining the guests and wiping the goo out of the eye of the kid with pink-eye! Of course husbands wouldn't have jumped at the idea of equality, what with the workload of a staff of twenty being condensed into the body of one. Imagine getting all that and not having to pay for it! Damn, I want a Wife, too.

Actually, I really want a dumbwaiter from which food will magically materialize at the table. That would be awesome.

The essay is bitingly funny and also pretty seething. You can read the whole thing over at Maggie's.

So, it's really depressing. I think we've come a long way since Syfer's essay, but so much of it is still totally accurate. Men's expectations have changed tons in some cases, and not at all in others. Remember the jack-ass who yelled "Go home and iron my shirts" at the Hillary Clinton rally? I guess it really speaks to the "why should the oppressor want to change his behavior when he reaps all benefits?" theory.

I've been thinking about the married people I know, to see how they compare to these statistics...I'd like to think that the married people I associate with are all nicely progressive and egalitarian. To a certain extent, the "progressive" certainly applies, and I think that the folks I know are claiming that it's all egalitarian, but I still remain skeptical. Very skeptical.

One conclusion that I have come up with, though, is that I will not raise a family within that structure. I don't even know if I want a family, but if I do, I WILL NOT stay at home while a partner/husband goes to work all day. I will not be left alone with a baby the majority of the time. I will not allow myself to be the primary parent, with the other one "helping out." Helping implies that it's the mommy's job, and the other partner is essentially doing a favor. Rather than their responsibility. I will only go about child rearing in an equal partnership. So there.


Since this posted the first time, there has been a lot of publicity from the passing of laws making it easier for husbands to take the wife's last name, and "allowing" new parents to give their kids the mother's name....While that's encouraging, it does hammer home the point that marriage is completely patriarchal. These laws try to make it seem less so, and may placate the "I'm a progressive, but I'm still going to buy into all the bullshit" set (you know, the ones with diamonds on their fingers and babies in yuppie-strollers who are stay at home moms and claim that they chose that in a totally un-pressured way), but I don't buy it.

I think that's all I've got to say for right now....

thursday menu

Friday, April 4, 2008

The other day I went to Monterey Market with a friend. It's a produce market in North West Berkeley that has amazing produce at amazing prices. One of the specials was a large bag of baby artichokes for $.98. I love artichokes more than is rational, so I grabbed a bag.

The plan was to experiment with cooking them the Jacques Pepin/Lidia Bastianich way, which is to cut away all that is not edible and braising or sauteing. Theoretically, once you've cut it all away, you're left with these cups with stems, which you slice.

Needless to say, Jacques's knife skills are superhuman, and my misshapen little lumps would make the poor Frenchman cry. Still, I thought, I'm going to fucking braise artichokes!

hmpf. I did so in olive oil with onion and garlic, following Lidia's recipe.

They were ok. Yes, only ok. I was really looking forward to all the wonders of the artichoke-y flavor, but actually, the flavor was not very present, and I think I'm deciding that I don't like garlic with my artichokes......


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